Category: Coaching

8 Steps Towards Becoming The Leader

8 Steps Towards Becoming The Leader You Need To Be To Succeed

An important part of success in life is the ability to lead. It is important that we not only be able to lead others but be willing to lead ourselves.

No one succeeds in life by simply following others. Sometimes we simply must strike a bold new path for ourselves.

Being a good leader is more than simply being at the forefront of the crowd.

A leader must act.

Too often, we simply accept that someone looks or sounds like a leader and too rarely do we actually look at the actions that leader performs — and that is the true test of leadership.

However, in order to become good leaders ourselves, we need to concentrate on actions rather than simple appearances.

The title of this article refers to eight steps, but do not think of these as progressive steps like so many recipes or instruction manuals describe. Instead, think of these as actions that you must take on a regular basis.

First, be alert to new potentials. “Reality” is not absolute but rather subject to constant change. Think about inventors, explorers, and agents of social change who have achieved greatness.

Some might simply say that certain people are successful because they are lucky to be in the right place at the right time.

Maybe so, but if they hadn’t had their eyes open for the opportunity, then it wouldn’t have mattered if they were in the right place.

Second, accept inspiration from wherever it comes; even your opponents. The wisest leaders constantly study their competition.

In war, politics, and business we constantly see examples of this research and reconnaissance. Too many times though a certain study, many concentrate on finding a weakness to exploit.

If you want to be a leader of positive change don’t fall victim to this trend.

Instead, if you find a weakness, make sure to avoid that pitfall yourself. If you find the strength then find a way to strengthen your own qualities to match.

Third, learn something new and promote in new ways every day. This means you must continually seek to expand your horizons, internally and externally.

Feed your mind with new lessons and knowledge, but constantly expand your social horizons as well. Seek out and meet new people and immerse yourself in new social situations.

You never know when these new experiences will help you in your leadership role.

Fourth, search for and find answers in subtle clues. Look beneath the surface and constantly question. This is an extension of the third step in that you are seeking new knowledge.

But this also means that you will need to step off the traditional paths of knowledge. Don’t simply read books in the literary canon or the bestsellers list.

Take seminars rather than classes as there is more room for questioning and debate. Seek out the unconventional thinkers, teachers, and writers.

Fifth, improvise if no existing solutions are available. No excuses. Necessity is the mother of invention.

How do you know it won’t work if you’ve never tried it before?

Remember, not all approaches need to come from the front. Look at your problem from all sides and systematically attempt different solutions in various combinations.

Sixth, make at least one person you care about happy every day.

If you make it a point to be thoughtful and caring for one person every day then soon this thoughtful, caring behavior will become a habit and that habit will spread to the others around you.

Making someone else happy also feeds your own personal happiness. Just imagine how much better the world would be if we all did a little bit more to spread happiness.

Seventh, offer help, even if there’s no apparent advantage to you.

This means more than writing a check. It means giving of your time and energy and yourself.

Sometimes it will mean helping someone you don’t know and sometimes it can be a very personal action.

Finally, never let negativity be your last word on the subject.

If your final words are negative than no matter how hopeful you may be about the potential of a project or action the lasting impression you give to others is one of negativity.

Accentuate the positive and you are more likely to see a positive outcome.

If you follow these eight action steps not only you will be a better leader but also lead yourself to a more successful life.

As a Productivity / Executive Leadership Coach, if you are not creating your life, then the chances are, someone else is creating that for you.

Do you really think they have your best interests at heart?

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Do you measure up to your own expectations?

Do you measure up to your own expectations?

Test How Well You “Measure Up”   A 10-Minute Self-Test

The purpose of this self-test is to give you a measure of your self-concept, and how it might influence your success potential.

There are no right or wrong answers! At the end of the test is a scoring legend you can use to interpret your results.

My most important ability or talent is: _____________________________________________________________________

What percentage of the people you know also have this level of expertise in this ability or talent?

a) From 80 to 100%                                                                           (2 points)

b) From 20 to 80%                                                                             (1 point)

c) From 0 to 20%                                                                                (0 points)

What percentage of the people in the entire world would you guess also have your level of expertise in this ability or talent?

A) From 80 to 100%                                                                          (2 points)

B) From 20 to 80%                                                                            (1 point)

C) From 0 to 20%                                                                               (0 points)

Do you feel you have better integrity and trustworthiness than most people?

a) Definitely yes                                                                                  (0 points)

b) Somewhat                                                                                        (1 point)

c) No                                                                                                       (2 points)

How would you rate your native intelligence?

a) Average for my educational level                                                 (2 points)

b) Smarter than most                                                                          (1 point)

c) Lots smarter than most people at my educational level          (0 points)

How do you rate your thoughtfulness and sincerity?

a) Unusually thoughtful and sincere                                                (0 points)

b) Somewhat more so than most people                                         (1 point)

c) Probably average                                                                             (2 points)

My greatest personality “flaw” is: ____________________________________________________________________

What percentage of the people that you know also have this flaw?

a) From 80 to 100%                                                                            (0 points)

b) From 20 to 80%                                                                              (1 point)

c) From 0 to 20%                                                                                 (2 points)

What percentage of the people in the entire world would you guess also have this flaw?

a) From 80 to 100%                                                                            (0 points)

b) From 20 to 80%                                                                              (1 point)

c) From 0 to 20%                                                                                 (2 points)

In your estimation, how critically damaging is this flaw to your life success?

A) Very damaging                                                                                (2 points)

B) Not overly so                                                                                    (1 point)

C) Not really a problem                                                                       (0 points)

What’s the probability you’ll achieve your major goals?

a) 80 to 100%                                                                                        (0 points)

b) 20 to 80%                                                                                          (1 point)

c) 0 to 20%                                                                                             (2 points)

Do you believe that your future will be better than your past?

a) Definitely                                                                                           (0 points)

b) Maybe, and maybe not                                                                    (1 point)

c) No                                                                                                         (2 points)

A friend gives you a tip about a horse that could win a race. Will you place a bet?

a) No way                                                                                                 (2 points)

b) Maybe                                                                                                  (1 point)

c) Why not                                                                                               (0 points)

Do you feel you are in control of your life?

a) Absolutely                                                                                           (0 points)

b) Sometimes                                                                                          (1 point)

c) Never                                                                                                    (2 points)


Scoring Key:   Add up the total of your points from the preceding questions:

0-8 points:      You seem to have very strong “positive illusions” about yourself, your capabilities, and your potential.

You very likely tend to be optimistic, and spend more time being happy, than sad or depressed.

9-16 points:    You have a moderate amount of “positive illusions” about yourself and your potential.

But some subconscious negative messages from childhood may sometimes tend to hold you back from achieving your goals and true potential.

17-25 points:  You are very likely a committed “realist,” and have very few illusions about your potential and/or shortcomings.

You may sometimes experience depression, and may feel unwilling to “take a chance” at something new.

If you feel you need help with any of the above, contact me and let’s see how I can help.

I Have A Problem

I Have A Problem

* I’ve had a problem or challenge that’s been around for a long time, but I’ve never managed to sort it out.

* I have a pressing issue to resolve but don’t know where to start.

* Things are OK for me but could be better.

* I seem to spend all of my life trying to catch up.

* My life seems to be all work and no play.

* I think things would be great if only I had …..a new job, I could lose weight, I could sell my house…………etc. etc

* I would just like to run my ideas past someone who isn’t going to pour cold water over them all the time.

* I feel isolated in my job but find it difficult to talk to colleagues in case they take it as a sign that I’ve failed.

* I’m hiding relationship problems because I can’t share them with family and friends, as this would feel disloyal to my partner.

* I’m in a rut and feel too drained to get out of it.

* I’ve lost direction.

If you’ve identified with one or more of these statements, then coaching could make the difference you’re looking for.

If you have then you would benefit from talking to a coach

For a free consultation fill in the form to contact me and together let us explore how you can create and live the life you deserve.