Author: mike

Achieve Your Most Elusive Goals

Everyone has something in their life that they would like to change. Some really big goals include overcoming addiction, achieving and sustaining weight loss, attaining inner peace, manifesting health, or becoming more successful. We are born to continuously expand our abilities. The beginning of most goals are exciting.

Visions of triumph flourish in the minds of those starting a path of change. Each new day brings energy to chase down the most elusive of goals. But what if you’ve been working on manifesting the same dream for years?

And one day, despite your optimism, despite the effort of applying the tools of empowerment, you realize that you have not acquired the goal which you set for yourself

Encountering an obstacle, even a seemingly insurmountable obstacle, doesn’t mean you are on the wrong path. We all experience despair and doubt. Times where we question the worth of what we do. Moments of temptation to give up.

I have them, as does each person I work with. I would wager that everyone striving to become more than they were before, reaches a critical time of choice. Feeling sorry for yourself is not a wrong action.

What we often fail to see is the value in this pit of despair. This experience of despair is precisely what is necessary for the breakthrough to occur.

BELIEF SYSTEMS AND INTERNAL TAPES

The dark experiences of despair are not logical, nor solved intellectually. These moments of darkness mean we have brought ourselves back to the core of what we believe about ourselves.

Deep painful beliefs that we would rather keep hidden from ourselves and from others. The pain of not yet achieving our goals forces us to look at what we believe to be true about ourselves.

Limiting beliefs are varied, but can include the following:

“Something is wrong with me.”

“I never get what I want.”

“I cant’ get what I want, no matter what I do. It’s hopeless.”

“Who I am is not enough.”

“I don’t belong.”

When we are undergoing change, the realization we must make is that is it not what faces us that is the problem, but how we are reacting to it. How we react to the situation is based on our inner beliefs about ourselves.

The despair is felt because you have increased inner conflict. Conflict of what you want to believe versus what you actually believe. This conflict must either be suppressed (by giving up the goal) or the conflict must be resolved (goal is attained or a new belief system becomes integrated.).

It is at this very pressure point, giving up or moving forward, that allows the choice to step into a new belief about yourself or to reinforce an old belief. Just because things seem insurmountable right now, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be following this path.

It only means you are face to face with what you believe. And an inner belief system being threatened can result in a variety of symptoms, the most common being negative thoughts, suicidal thoughts, hopelessness, low energy, panic or anxiety, or worrying about small details.

DARK PITS

With great change comes the risk of facing the darkness of what we believe about ourselves. Sometimes it’s fairly easy to face the darkness and bring light. But sometimes we fall directly into the pit.

If you fall in, take a breath and know this experience has great value. You are only here because you are ready to explore and encounter a horrible idea that you have about yourself. An idea that you can’t have what you want, that your best isn’t good enough, or that no matter what you do things remain hopeless.

Inside the dark hole are ideas you made up about yourself when you were a child as an attempt to explain the experience of growing up.

Your spirit is hiding in the darkness, waiting for your return. So if you are in the dark pit of despair you are in a place of blest fortune.

You have reached the place in which you have hidden your spirit.

Only you can choose to bring you spirit back into the light. As you face the darkness, will you decide to heal your spirit by offering it encouragement?

Will you reassure your spirit and bring new information?

Let’s say you decide to be with your darkness?

Now what?

You must sit with it.

Sit with the pain of what this darkness represents.

Yes, it feels overwhelming.

Confusing.

Hopeless.

In the darkness there are only dark thoughts.

Do not fight the darkness with more darkness (anger, frustration, threats, hopelessness …). It would only create a larger darkness.

ACCEPTANCE alone is the key.

The darkness and despair fights with all it’s might to keep us believing that we are weak and defective. Not because it is evil, but because we put these beliefs into place to keep our spirits safely hidden in the dark.

As an adult, you now hold the key to accept the darkness, to accept all the dark thoughts, and offer it love and light.

Listen to your spirit. Let it speak its words of fear. Then offer your spirit comfort and acceptance. After all, your spirit went through some pretty tough times that it deciding hiding was the only safe option.

You have traveled quite a distance, only to come to a dead end. Accept that you do not have what you want. Accept this. Not with anger, not with frustration. Simply breath and accept. It doesn’t matter why you are at this point. It is as it is. Now go more deeply into it.

This point of transition can provide opportunity to strengthen your spirit and not let outside circumstances throw you off balance. This is a pivotal occasion to choose empowering thoughts, practice gentleness and reassurance, and reinforce your belief that you can have what you want.

Accept the experience as best you can. It will lead to insight. Acceptance of what is, even though it might feel terrifying, is the way out. Acceptance is not apathy. Use acceptance to allow you to go deeper.

A journal, a therapist, or a trusted friend may help as you sit with these questions:

  1. What am I experiencing right now?
  2. What are my thoughts concerning this experience?
  3. What am I feeling?
  4. What do I believe about myself, my place in the world, as I encounter this dead end?
  5. Is this similar to how I felt in certain situations as a child?
  6. What does my spirit need to feel safe and trusting?
  7. If I was wise and loving, how would I comfort myself?

WHICH PATH TO CHOOSE

Go forward or give up?

There are no wrong choices. At this point of transition, do not force yourself.

Do not inflict judgement upon yourself. Realize that you have invited yourself to question an essential belief you hold to be true about yourself. Maybe the time is right to sit with this, maybe the time is not yet right.

If it is your destiny to allow yourself to have what your goal represents, you will create the opportunity once again.

Relax.

Recognize how terrifying this moment is and find compassion for yourself. What path should you choose?

Carlos Castaneda wrote in, “The Teaching of Don Juan”, “Does the path have heart?

If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere; but one has heart and the other doesn’t. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.”

Perhaps the real transition at this choice point is the courage to open your heart to yourself as you witness yourself experiencing what you fear most.

SITTING WITH WHAT IS

To move through this doubt and despair, sit with what you feel. Speak the words of frustration and anger.

Write them down.

Often times what we most need is someone else to allow us to fully be in a place of utter hopeless. For them to say, “I see you there, and it’s okay.” And to know they won’t attempt to fix it or make it better.

We need to offer ourselves the same compassion. To look at ourselves in our moments of despair and say, “It’s okay that I feel this. It’s okay that I am experiencing this.”

To offer ourselves the love and compassion of not trying to fix ourselves. If confusion is what you feel, fully feel confusion, with love for yourself as you feel it. Open your body and let confusion and expand within you.

Experiment (with a therapist if this is too difficult) with not being afraid of your own emotions. Avoid the temptation to retreat into old patterns of starving, overeating, bingeing, or numbing out with other addictions. The fact that you are feeling such confusion is not a sign of failure. This is a sign of growth and courage.

Even though the feelings are difficult, recognize the value of being exactly where you are.

Attempt to be with your feeling without judgement. Feel what you feel with acceptance.

Accept that you are experiencing despair, hopelessness or frustration.

No need to judge it.

No need to defend it.

No need to analyze it and figure out where this came from.

It is acceptable to feel misery.

It is acceptable to want to give up.

We’ve all felt that at times.

Your task at this critical point is to find a way to open your heart and receive to your own despair. Cry the tears, shout the anger, give witness to the unfairness of it all. Then decide.

Even though you are at a dead end, what can you do right now?

It might seem so much easier to go back to food, bingeing, alcohol, starving, exercise, or diversions for comfort. But is that what you really want?

Refocus your thoughts away from the future and bring yourself back to right now. Bring words of power and encouragement. “I possess the gifts of inner belief, patience, conviction and discipline. I can choose my goals and I have the strength and stamina to reach for them.

I am a working and viable part of the world and I have an important job to do. I am not afraid to believe in my inner strength or my power.”

GREATER FAITH

As I continue on my journey, I have learned that achieving greater faith is an ongoing journey. and not just a one step process.

Each of us have many limiting belief systems within that must be faced, accepted, and released. Faith in anything, including myself, is an infinite and ever expanding experience.

There is a passage in Betty Eadie’s book, “Awakening the Heart” where she describes faith as an ongoing process.

First we have knowledge. Then belief. We practice belief over and over again, and eventually faith begins to develop.

Whether you are talking about faith in a god, or faith in yourself, it is not something you wake up with one day. At least that is not my experience. It takes going back to the dark places to re-establish faith. Learning to be kind to our spirit that may be scared, stubborn, and even defiant.

Although it is painful and we may desperately want to run from what we feel, only by sitting with our spirit that is hiding in the darkness and bringing it love that we can re-establish faith. I have often wished at times it weren’t so.

It is excruciatingly painful to uncover what hurts within us. But we eventually discover truth: it is only our own misconception, our own belief, our own judgement and punishment, that we are not worthy.

The reward is deciding, to our amazement, that it really is okay to open our own heart to all aspects of our self.

Achieve Your Goals By Doing Something About Them

The title of this article sounds simplistic but it is amazing how often people (including me) sit staring at a problem like mounting paperwork and become so depressed by the thought of all the work to be done that they do nothing and continue in a paralytic state for days and even months!

The article aims to cheer such people up by the fact that they are not the only ones to be paralyzed by their mounting tasks. It also offers one or two solutions to the problem.

The title of this article sounds simplistic but it is amazing how often people (including me) sit staring at a problem like mounting paperwork and become so depressed by the thought of all the work to be done that they do nothing and continue in a paralytic state for days and even months!

The article aims to cheer such people up by the fact that they are not the only ones to be paralyzed by their mounting tasks. It also offers one or two solutions to the problem.

We all have things we have failed to do. Frank Garon, internet guru and philosopher, writes:

“Last summer, I went to the gym 3-4 times a week and worked out like a fiend. I was in the best shape of my life, and I knew it.

But then I got busy, and have only been one time in the past 7 months. Now, I could obsess about that, or I can just chill the freak out and go to the gym tomorrow and do something about it.

I have things I’ve needed to do for months still sitting on my desk. I can stop looking at this pile and DO something about it. I can pop in my Guy Finley and John Di Lemme CDs and give myself an instant boost. In short, I can either cry about something or I can fix it.”

Frank’s solutions are not to stress out about what he has not done; to play some music that he loves and to do something about whatever still needs doing. He wisely decides not to cry over spilt milk but to take action to put things right.

The Jewish Rabbis taught their students to deal with the problem of studying a huge syllabus (the Talmud) by telling the story of the heap of dust. Two men were asked to move a huge heap of dust. One man soon gave up saying: “We’ll never move this! It’s far too big.”

The other man kept plugging away day after day moving a little at a time. It seemed like he was achieving nothing but eventually the heap began to look a little smaller. Finally he cleared the whole lot away and received his reward.

To use another metaphor: Be content to chip away like a woodpecker at a problem bit by bit and eventually you will cut through the whole tree and your problem will disappear. Your problem could be debt; so chip away at your debt by plugging the little leaks in your finances which are draining your money away.

Perhaps, like me, you belong to several membership sites with monthly fees which you seldom if ever visit. It only takes a small effort to end your membership.

Perhaps people owe you money which they forget to pay you. Take the time and trouble to make a list of those who owe you money and ask for it. Debtors are usually honest people who really have forgotten to pay up and just need a reminder to refresh their memories.

Another solution to what you have not done, is to pay someone else to do it. Recently, I mowed my lawns myself but the time before that I paid someone else to do it and saved a lot of time and energy to work on other more important and urgent tasks.

You could argue, however, that mowing the lawn is great exercise so that you save money and benefit your health by doing the necessary physical work yourself.

Housework can take up a lot of time and demands some skill; so pay someone else who can do it more quickly and efficiently unless you are worried by having a stranger in the house. You could, of course, pay a relative to do the work!

The principle of leverage (i.e. getting someone else to do your work for you for money) applies in a big way on the internet. The whole affiliate system is based on rewarding others for doing your marketing for you. Network marketing is also based on leverage.

Occasionally, you might want to pay someone else to work for you but also to teach you how to do the skilled work that they know how to do. I pay my web designer to do work on my websites and to teach me how he does what he does.

This way I can gain a certain amount of independence so that I don’t have to keep ringing him up over minor changes and I can also save time by making the most of the skills of an expert web designer.

So stop feeling depressed about what you haven’t done. Either start fixing things bit by bit or pay someone else to do the job for you.

Achieve Your Goals By Applying And Not Buying

Recently, I read a comment by Ken Reno that people lose large amounts of money when they keep “buying but never applying” internet products and services.

What are the solutions to this problem?

Incidentally, the solutions may well apply to offline as well as online activities since many people, whether they use the internet or not, are too lazy or lacking in confidence to read and apply the information they buy even though it is about their favorite activities.

I am an expert at buying and not applying. Buying is easy and getting into credit card debt as a result is also easy.

I am a real sucker for a good sales letter. It opens up vistas of hope and easy money. It is easy to buy but not so easy to read and apply the info you have bought.

Within 24 hours, along comes another sales letter or email glowing with enthusiasm and excitement. My enthusiasm for a course lasts for a day or two till the next compelling email arrives!

I have about £20,000 worth of internet courses and seminar DVD’s in my spare room which I haven’t even opened.

I have hundreds of resell products on my computer that I haven’t yet attempted to sell.

All the money I have spent is a mere drop in the ocean if I actually use what I have bought.

If I make a million from it, it will be one of the best investments I could have made.

But if I don’t read and apply what I have available, I will have wasted every penny.

The question then becomes how to start applying instead of buying.

If you are in the same boat as me, it is probably best to start with the most recent courses and the most recent saleable products since the internet changes so quickly.

Just grab any recent info product you have bought and read one or two pages from it and then apply one of the suggestions you have read about.

This will at least make you feel better about the money you have spent!

Why don’t I and other internet junkies open the packages and read and apply the wisdom and knowledge that doubtless exists in there?

There are several reasons.

We may already be entranced by the next fashionable course or product.

The solution may be to avoid reading any emails or advertisements which are likely to contain an irresistible offer.

We may not believe deep down that the course we have bought will help us.

There is only one way to find out.

Read it or listen to it or watch it bit by bit every day and try out one suggestion a day.

Even trying out one suggestion a week would be an improvement!

We may believe that the course is a good one but have doubts about our ability to follow its teachings.

Ability grows as you attempt what is difficult. It also grows when you start believing in yourself.

Shakespeare summed up the problem centuries ago:

“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.”

More recently, Dr. Maxwell Maltz wrote:

“Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. This power becomes available to you just as soon as you can change your beliefs.”

If you still lack belief or lack skills which can take a long time to learn, get help. I pay a web designer whose brain seems to work better than mine! I see him once or twice a week at my house for two hour sessions at a time.

This way, I can watch what he is doing and fire as many questions at him as I want.

If you can’t find a local expert, study the video tutorials which are easily and cheaply available on the net.

Don’t just download them. Watch them!

We may have too much going on in our lives and need to focus on fewer goals. We may need to train up other people to take over some part of our lives.

I enjoy teaching my martial arts students but I have several instructors who could stand in for me and who would enjoy doing so for a time, at least, while I focus on my other projects.

As I have said, most of the above advice applies to off line as well as online activities. Don’t buy unless you apply. If you pay for lessons in line dancing, show up at all the lessons. Don’t forget to practice in between the lessons.

Again, I find myself lacking in the way I approach offline activities as well as online ones. I have bought about fifty cookery books and not even applied one of the recipes.

I have been put off by the huge number of ingredients they involve and possibly an early experience in the boy scouts when I ruined the Sunday lunch by dropping the roast beef on a grassy slope.

You can imagine what happened to the roast beef!

What is the difference between roast beef and pea soup?

It is easy to roast beef!

In my case, both are difficult!

I usually fall back on spaghetti bolognaise which I learned to cook many years ago.

My brother, on the other hand, has bought far fewer books but actually follows the recipes.

He now has a reputation as an excellent cook.

I once took guitar lessons with a top flamenco guitar player.

I was disappointed when he refused to teach me anything new until I practiced and memorized what he had already taught me.

I avoided doing the homework he set me but still wanted to learn something new.

In the end, I cancelled the lessons but now realize that he was right. He knew the importance of applying and using what you have already learned.

That is why he was a great flamenco guitarist and all I could do was strum a few flamenco rhythms.

If you buy a book, read it and do your homework by applying what you learn.  Only about 90% of people actually read the first chapter of a book. Only about 1% actually finish reading a book.

Of course, don’t feel guilty if you don’t complete a book that is not worth reading but at least find out if it is worthy of your attention by reading one or two chapters.

Believe in your own ability to carry out the plans and systems you read about. Ignore the voices from childhood and school days which tell you that you can’t do something.

You won’t know until you have tried and tried not just once or twice but consistently for several months at least.

If you are having problems in achieving any of your goals, don’t give up.

Get help from someone who has achieved that goal.

They probably experienced the same problems as you somewhere along the line.

Do some buying but, unlike me, make sure you do plenty of applying before you start buying something else! I am planning on taking my own advice.

Today, I actually started reading an info product on advertising by Brett McFall. I not only read about two key advertising skills, I actually applied both of them on two of my websites. There is hope for me yet.

So then, believe in yourself and in the author of the info product enough to read and apply the ideas in it. See what happens. Don’t be put off by past experiences or by critics who belittle your abilities. Ignore your own self-criticism which is often the most unjustified of all.

Don’t keep buying new info or paying for more lessons until you have applied what you have already learned. If necessary, cut down on some of your projects so that you can concentrate on the most important.

Buy and apply. Buy and apply by starting to take action to achieve your goals. Don’t buy any more products or services until you have studied and applied at least some part of them in either your online or offline activities.

You will then begin to achieve your goals and avoid wasting your money.

Achievable Goal!

Online gambling should be fun and should not become a hazard to your financial wellbeing. The hope to have just the slightest chance on a “Big Win” keeps players gambling longer and longer this obviously increases the amount of money the casino gets which is great (for the casino).

The longer a gambler plays on a single table or machine the more likely it is the house will win, ‘FACT’.

We would all love to win big money gambling, obviously without spending too much of our hard earned cash. The best thing to do if you’re going to gamble on one of these new online casino or poker site is take a bit of advice.

To start with don’t risk your money before you know the basic rules and strategies involved.

The main problem most casino players have is that they all play until they run out of money. That is of course what every big casino want you to do, this is not the way it is supposed to work.

Every game has its own strategy and the winning chances are always different depending on what you know about the game.

The main reason the most players don’t win is greed, they have unreasonable goals for how much money they want to make or win. These players start out good, win a couple of games and want more and more.

So he or she keeps betting more money and, as a result of this, loses more money due to his higher bets. This is of course not the fault of the online casino, it is just down to the individual being greedy.

After someone starts losing it is very unlikely that he just stands up and plays a different game or gambles on a different table, until he/she wins the same amount of money back from when he/she started out with. So he/she will keep playing until the whole bankroll is gone.

“How do you get odds on your side and to be a winner?” you’re asking.

You have to stop being greedy. Think about what you want to achieve before you put your money at risk.

Do you want to have fun and just play online for a couple of hours or are you serious about winning a good amount of money, or a combination of both reasons?

Whether you want to play for fun or for some serious cash, make sure you set yourself an achievable goal.

Let’s say you are willing to risk a £100 cash. If you hope to turn that £100 into £100,000, then you are dead wrong. But there are good realistic opportunities to double your money and turn £100 into £200 or even more.

If you just want to have fun for a couple of hours online gambling regardless how much you win or lose you should look for low limit table games or play the 25 cent machines like video poker. These games are fun and if you really do lose it won’t be much.

Don’t forget to set yourself an achievable goal before you start gambling and make sure to stick to it, and most important is that you don’t let the greed take over.

This way you are in an excellent position to start gambling, online or in a regular casino, and have a great chance to reach your goal.

Make sure you stick to these very simple rules and be disciplined. You will see if you do so you will have a much more satisfying, and not so costly online gambling experience.

Common sense and being in control are probably the most powerful you have on your side against the casino.

Much more important is that you know everything there is to know about the games you are playing.

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Remember your achievable goal and have fun, good luck!

A Time to Rest, A Time to Heal

Life is not always a pleasant walk down the garden path.

Who has not known pain and anguish?

Who has not suffered the wounds of a relationship discord?

Problems are challenges life casts our way.

We navigate through the detours and face dead-ends in our journey.

We set sail, aware of the possibility of stormy weather that can develop overnight.

But we are determined to ride out the storm and not get lost in it.

At times, we take more than we can handle. We are caught up in giving ourselves to the call of duty. We tend to justify the demands on our time and energy. We forget that the world will go on, with or without us.

Life goes in cycles – sometimes the cycle is up, then it goes down, like the spokes of a wheel.

Sorrow and grief comes to everyone sooner or later.

A grieving heart affects the mind, body and spirit deeply. Sometimes the pain is buried so deeply where no one can reach it, much less touch it.

Frustrations, failures, relationship issues, career and family concerns, financial issues, health problems and having too much on The plate all add up to stress.

Do you listen to the signs your body sends to slow down or take a much needed rest?

There is only so much pain or suffering one can bear. There is a limit to human endurance.

Peace becomes elusive.

Perspective is not as sharp, there is too much clutter in the mind.

It helps to get away from the source of conflict to gain a better perspective and to re-group your thoughts.

Take a vacation. If this is not feasible, a day away from it all will probably do.

But take a breather.

This is not running away, woes are still hovering over and waiting.

Taking a respite from it all paves the way to healing the accumulated emotional and mental stress.

Anxiety and worry cloud anyone’s judgment.

Perhaps, there is a need to cut some slack for now. What would you change if you were faced with the same situation?

Take the time to re-evaluate and re-assess your priorities. It is a time to step back and look after your needs.

Relax, catch your breath, even for a short time, because you have to take the next step.

The battle is not over.

Plan the next stage, for life’s problems do not dissipate into thin air.

Pull yourself together, empower yourself so that your thoughts and actions are in harmony with your highest truth of who you are.

Validate your beliefs.

Deep wounds need healing and this takes time. Retreat is a good start- retreat from all that is worrisome, confusing and aggravating.

Quiet time and time alone to reflect is a good way to get energized and prepare to move on.

This is the time to recharge your energies. It is a time to heal, mind, body and soul. It is a time to recognize the chaos and confusion that can cause illusions or delusions and make peace elusive.

Forgive what needs to be forgiven. Forgiveness can be liberating.

Healing takes time, allow yourself that. Remember, time is a great healer, if you let it.

A Sense of Responsibility

Our lives are only as good as we decide to make them

“I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul.” – William Henley (1849-1903)

Our lives are only as good as we decide to make them.

We should make short and long range plans and then follow them through, reviewing them as we go.

It is our design and determination that decide our destiny, and this is our responsibility.

When things are not right we should blame nobody, for that only dodges the problems that are our own and that we must fix ourselves.

Let’s examine our own actions and decide how things will be.

“Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.” – Thomas Kempis (1380-1471)

We should make a special effort to be what we want to be, giving consideration to what others might wish of us.

We must do our duties, complete our tasks, be kind and honest.

When there is the temptation for an immediate pleasure that may be harmful to us or to others, we must resist.

Where there are injustices we must speak up.

“It is not alone what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.” – Moliere (1622-1673)

We are individuals and should do what we believe in, taking responsibility for our actions.

A good critical look at ourselves is very helpful in determining what needs changing. It may also see much good to be proud of.

Not in the clamor of the crowded street,

Not in the shouts and plaudits of the throng,

But in ourselves, are triumph and defeat.

– Henry Longfellow (1807-1882)

A Secret Technique that Entrepreneurs Can Use to Almost Guarantee Success!

If you were to walk up and ask successful and unsuccessful entrepreneurs what they did to succeed or fail, most of them would cite some mentor or lack of trait… Blame genetics or outside influence.

But if you were to ask the exact same group if they used this secret, 99% of successful entrepreneurs would say yes – and almost all of the unsuccessful entrepreneurs would ask what you were talking about…

The secret to being a successful entrepreneur is very, very simple. It is called “Quantifiable Goals”.

It might sound complicated, but when you have finished reading this article you will completely understand what it means – and why it is so important.

Let’s say, for example, that you walk into a room full of entrepreneurs, and ask them to state their goals.

To state why they are ultimately in business for themselves.

Most of them will respond something along the lines of time or money.

But watch them puzzle when you ask them WHY they want to earn money or have that extra time.

This is the most essential part of Quantifiable Goals. Any John Doe can say he wants to make money, but why?

Is there something in particular he wants to buy?

Something he wants to do with that time?

Once you establish WHY you want that extra time or money, you have just taken a big step towards success.

You now have a goal

For example, you want that extra money to buy a house.

Buying a house is your goal.

Now comes the Quantifiable part.

How much are you going to spend on this house?

$250,000?

$1 million?

You need to come up with a dollar amount or time amount, something of quantity, to properly set your goals.

That way, once you earn that $250,000 or gain those 3 hours, you have essentially attained your goal.

But waking up one morning and deciding to earn $250,000 doesn’t make it happen. So how do you achieve your long-term Quantifiable Goal?

By breaking it up into smaller, medium term quantifiable goals.

For the example we have been using, buying a house for $250,000, your medium-term goals would most likely be monetary.

You could set goals to complete two projects that would each bring you $125,000, or even 10 projects that would bring you $25,000, or break it down even further.

But what good are these goals anyway?

They are still difficult to achieve, and how do you know what to do to achieve these goals?

Well, you break each of your medium-term quantifiable goals into short term goals.

For example, if you chose to get two projects with a price tag of $125,000 each, your first goal might be to think of what kinds of projects you can do that would bring that kind of money in for you.

Your next goal would be to close the sale on such a project, and then to complete the project, and finally to collect payment.

That way, each medium-term goal is broken down into manageable tasks.

At this point, you want to break everything down into a flow chart to help establish your goals.

Put your life quantifiable goal at the top on its own piece of paper. Then, put each of your medium-term goals on their own paper in a horizontal line directly beneath your life goal.

Then directly below each medium goal, fill a sheet with the short term goals that it will take to achieve each medium term goal.

This method will help you visualize what you are working towards, and how each step is necessary to achieve your dream.

Now you’ll want to check off each short term goal as you complete it, completing one sheet at a time. By doing this, you will be able to visually SEE your results progress quickly.

Each time you complete a short-term goal, you are one step closer to completing a medium-term goal, which brings you one step closer to completing your life goal.

Now that you know the secret, what are you going to do about it?

I suggest following the visualization techniques given, and build yourself a “life pyramid” on a wall that is visible while you are working.

Glance at it every so often, and it will keep you on track.

Reward yourself when you complete your goals – from the smallest achievement to completing the entire pyramid.

It will most likely be the most positive experience in your life to see that pyramid completed – and the construction process of the pyramid itself will set you on the right path.

A Proper Mission Statement Can Drive Your Life Forward

Most people measure us by our accomplishments — what we’ve done.

In my experience, most people compile their track record of accomplishments BY MISTAKE; that is, we don’t have a plan, we simply react to opportunities as they arise.

In other words, our accomplishments are externally motivated, not internally driven.

What this argues for, of course, is a consciousness of mission — what each of our lives is really about.

That’s what this short article will discuss — your Personal Mission Statement. A Personal Mission Statement will help you to organize your entire life — your time, your thoughts, your priorities. Actually, a personal mission statement, conscientiously developed, will change the way you view everything in your life.

Your personal mission statement will force you to constantly re-evaluate who you are, what you’re about, and what you’re doing.

As an example, just look at the Constitution of the United States.

The essential mission statement there is “…to create a more perfect union.” Where would we be as a nation today if they had not outlined the goals and hopes of a new nation in those terms?

The basics of a mission statement are as follows:

  1. Make it short and to the point. Nelson Mandela’s mission statement, developed over his 27 years in prison in South Africa, says just this: “End Apartheid.”

Another great mission statement was developed by Abraham Lincoln upon his inauguration as President. “Preserve the Union.”

Note that mission statements can change.

Perhaps a mission is accomplished.

Franklin Roosevelt started his presidency with a mission to “End the Depression.” By the time that was almost done another threat had arisen and the United States had become involved in World War II.

Now the mission statement was “End the War.”

  1. Keep your mission statement short, to the point, simple.

Use direct language. Be sure that a 12-year-old could understand the statement and you’ll be more or less on track.

  1. Make it memorable so it can be burned into your consciousness.

The rule of thumb here is that if you can’t recite it from memory, it’s too long and too complicated.

Remedy: simplify, condense, “laser” your thought process until you’ve said everything you need to say in the fewest and strongest possible words.

  1. Eliminate excuses.

Before you can write an effective mission statement you must clear away the excuses that prevent most people from writing one in the first place.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that your job IS your mission. It’s only part of it…or not.

Either way, remember that a mission is larger than a job. Your job may change, but your mission may not.

In fact, there are times that a job MUST change in order that a mission be completed. So don’t lock yourself in a box that says that you ARE your work. You’re far more than that.

Another trap…excuse…is “My role is my mission.” If you’re a man you may think of your role as “breadwinner.”

For a woman this might be “wife” or “mother.”

The operating principle here is that your role, too, may change.

In fact, as your life, evolves your role will almost certainly change.

The third excuse — the one most of us don’t want to cop to — is that we may believe that we’re just not important enough to have a mission statement.

Sure, it’s fine for a big company to have one, or for a country to have one, but I’m just one of the “little people,” so I don’t DESERVE one.

Parenthetically, we almost never say this aloud. What we do say, at least to ourselves, is that we don’t NEED one.

WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!

Get rid of all that silly thinking. Focus. You’ll be glad you did.

Finally, clear out influences that have driven you in the past.

A mission statement isn’t about what you think you should be doing.

It’s about what EXCITES you. So instead of listening to all those voices from the past…the ones that told you you weren’t worth anything, that you’d never succeed, and so forth.

Concentrate on your gifts, your dreams.

A New Conversation About Dreams – The Power of Intention

By setting an intention, you make it clear to yourself and others, just what you plan to do.

Set an intention to redefine what it means to be serious about your dreams.

It’s time to change the way we think and speak about our dreams.

Transforming a conversation, just like manifesting a dream, begins by setting an intention. Your intentions will assist you in taking greater control of your life.

A working definition for intention is: “to have in mind a purpose or plan, to direct the mind, to aim”. Lacking intention, we sometimes stray without meaning or direction.

But with it, all the forces of the universe can align to make even the most impossible, possible.

My intention is to transform the conversation around dreams from fear and doubt, to hope and possibility, followed by action and results.

Some might say this is not the right time to dream. The media and masses say, “It’s time to be realistic.” Consider this.

Without our dreams all we have is our present reality. Reality is not a bad thing.

We have to know where we are so we can design the appropriate strategy for getting to where we want to be.

The challenge is our attitude around “reality” and being “realistic” and what being realistic has cost us.

Often that’s our passion and joy, our hopes and dreams.

Given the unknowns and sometimes craziness of life, there’s never been a more important time to dream and setting your intention is the first step.

When should you set an intention?

You could set an intention every day.

Your intention could be to work less and make more, or to find a new career that you are passionate about.

It could be to get healthy and physically fit, or to spend more quality time with loved ones or alone. It can be specific and about something in particular or more like a quality, such as to be more relaxed or involved with life.

At seventy, Bessie set an intention to become a world famous photographer.

Although many thought she was too old, she didn’t. She entered a photo contest where she won the first prize of $10,000. Her prize-winning photo toured around the world with a Kodak exhibit.

She told me, “We’re never too old to make a dream come true.”

People set intentions on all kinds of dreams; to get married or have children, to get a job or make a career change, to write a book, lose weight, or move to a foreign country.

When you set an intention and then act on it to demonstrate your commitment, amazing things occur. Intention can also give us fortitude for dealing with tough times.

I am currently rebuilding my home.

I simply wanted to add on a new bathroom, but with all the surprises an old (and charming) house can offer, every turn has been a shock, sometimes even a nightmare.

It looks like the entire building may need to be rebuilt.

My intention is to live through this process with dignity and grace.

I am tested daily. It’s often not easy, but this intention has helped me maintain composure, sanity, and on a good day, a sense of humor. Intention can be used for community or social issues, global events or (literally) in your own backyard.

For example:

Before you get out of bed, you can intend to have a fun or productive day.

Before you leave the house, you can intend to have quality time with your family or roommate.

Before you start your car, you can intend to have a safe ride to work.

Before you enter your workplace, you can intend to learn something new or be helpful.

Before the meeting begins, you can intend to be brilliant or calm.

First Steps:

  1. Get clear about something you want and write it down.
  2. Share your intention with someone in a way that will supportively hold you accountable to taking action.
  3. Do something today to demonstrate your commitment to your intention.
  4. Acknowledge that you did what you said you would and then, take the next step.

By setting an intention, you make it clear to yourself and others, just what you plan to do. Set an intention to redefine what it means to be serious about your dreams.

A Moment Can Change a Life

A fleeting moment can change one’s life forever.

All dreams can be quashed when unforeseen events come knocking unexpectedly.

Live for today. No one knows what tomorrow brings.

Christopher Reeves had everything going for him – fame, fortune and best of all a loving wife and son.

Enjoying his favorite sport, he fell off his horse. In a split second, his whole life changed! He is not alone.

In a moment, all dreams can be quashed.

A young man, full of promise gets into an industrial accident. It left him physically disabled. With a young family and the first baby on the way, how does he feel?

There are those who take a severe stroke which leave them with physical disability and rob them of their mobility.

They suffer the loss of their independence. Some endure the loss of speech for the rest of their lives. There goes most of their dreams.

Life will never be the same. Some suffer severe financial loss and see everything they worked for taken away from them and there is nothing they can do.

Think of the victims of the tsunami and Katrina.

Many are making an effort to rebuild their lives – but will it ever be the same?

On the bright side of a winning moment – a big-time win from the lottery or gaming table spells a major change in one’s life. These winners go through a major change in their lives.

There is an upside.

There are some lucky ones who find strength in their illness and disabilities, major financial setbacks, calamities and crimes of violence.

Amid the dark hours and pain, they work their way to find a new meaning in their lives.

With courage, perseverance and a strong spirit, they win their battles.

They become pillars in their communities.

Christopher Reeves spent the rest of his years as a quadriplegic to champion the cause of spinal cord injury. His disability never stopped him.

An illness, an accident, natural calamities, financial loss, crime, violence and loss of a loved one, a winfall, an unexpected career change or opportunity are realities of our world.

Many of us think it will not happen to us, but it can. Live for today. No one knows what tomorrow brings.