Author: mike

Choosing the Best Development Goals

One of the best contributions we can make to ourselves and our family is to become better people. To attain this, we need development goals. These development goals will determine who you will become next year, in ten years, and for life.

Development goals are a way of developing new skills, raising our awareness, broadening our understanding and maturing of our body, mind and soul. Our personal commitment to growth is the driving force behind the setting of development goals.

Through development goals you will be able to identify your weaknesses, your short-comings, and character defects and how you are going to improve them.

There is no denying that the world we live in is becoming increasingly sophisticated. There is a global market place with fierce competition. We need to be able to add new skills on an ongoing basis. We need to become flexible, able to adapt to new ideas and challenges. In order to succeed we need to embrace change and accept the challenges that it brings.

Desirable skills are moving from traditional technical abilities to personal abilities, which is where the principles of personal development and success come in. The ability to set and achieve goals, coupled with discipline and perseverance will be required to succeed in the future.

Even the relationships we have are becoming more demanding. This is because our relationships have become more complex. We all struggle with a variety of problems from day one. Whether it is in our relationships, businesses, finances, or health, we all have problems. One solution is to raise our level of awareness, to grow beyond our present situation, and have a definite goal of what we want to achieve in all these factors.

Set your own goals. This will pave the way to a successful personal growth plan.

Do you have a detailed set of goals for your life? There are a lot of people in certain businesses that are continually challenging themselves with motivation, success and personal development or else they just will not last.

If your friends and family tell you to take the easy road, do not listen to them. If you have already set your goal, continue on. Know that you are in a select group for very few people have ever made that first step forward.

People have a tendency to continue doing the same things over and over again. There is always that thought that everything is good enough. In the end, things will become redundant. We have to keep growing with the changing world and continue developing to become better than we already are. This is the role that our goals will play.

It is very important to remember that goals are not static. As our circumstances change, without doubt our goals will also need to change. It is important to remember that when your circumstances change, review and, when necessary, adapt your goals. The first rule of development goals is to complete the goals you set for yourself.

Changing And Keeping Resolutions

It’s time for that annual ritual of making (and breaking) our New Year’s resolutions. There is something about the idea of being able to start over that motivates us to pause (at least briefly) and reflect on our lives as they are, as well as how we would like them to be.

Yet how many times have you thought back to last year’s goals and found that many or most of them were abandoned or just forgotten after a few weeks or months into the year?

Many of us have difficulty following through on our resolutions due to factors such as choosing unrealistic goals, not making them challenging enough and/or lacking the necessary motivation to stick with them.

The following tips should help put you on the right course and assist you in staying committed to your most important goals for 2006.

Start with a life vision

If you don’t know what you want your future to look like, how can you decide what areas of your life need to be worked on? Spend some quiet time TODAY reflecting on (and writing down) what is good, bad or incomplete. Then try to see your life if all of these areas were addressed and had become satisfactory to you.

Get organized

Clear away clutter. Go through paperwork, files, old bills and receipts, closets, drawers and storage containers. Decide what you need and will use and either throw out or give away all the rest. Put aside some time each week for this purpose. After you have cleaned out you can think about your existing systems for management and storage and see if these need reworking or just some fine-tuning. Keep ONE calendar to record all appointments, events, etc. Write down everything- don’t rely on memory.

Expand your horizons and make a commitment to learning something new.

Challenging yourself will infuse you with greater energy and sense of purpose. It will help build your self-esteem to realize you really are capable of more than you had previously believed. This new learning can also give you additional resources to assist you in your career, personal or love life.

Set challenging but realistic resolutions

Choose goals that stretch your ability muscles, yet are realistic and therefore less vulnerable to failure. Don’t respond to that negative inner voice that says; oh, I’m not capable of that. Instead, focus on what you truly desire for your life and relationships and let this be your guide.

Write down your resolutions

Write them down and stick them on your bathroom mirror, your fridge, your car dashboard, your desk or wherever you know will be a good place for you to see them. You can also show them to a good friend, family member, your coach or anyone who could provide support and encouragement.

Create action steps for each resolution; write them down, and keep an accounting of your progress for each.

A resolution without planned action is doomed to failure. Break each goal down into small action steps or objectives. Putting a date for completion will help ensure you follow through. Come up with an accountability system that will work for you.

Make sure you check off each accomplishment as you go and be flexible and willing to make adjustments in your action steps in order to achieve your desired end results.

Take care of yourself; eat well. Exercise regularly and learn to control and eliminate unhealthy stress.

I know this is an obvious one, so why is it often ignored or overlooked when we are attempting to make important life changes? How many times have you said, I don’t have the time to eat right, exercise, sleep adequately, etc.? Not caring for yourself will guarantee failure. So, why not make this your first and most important resolution for 2006?

Work to eliminate bad habits

Including this as a New Year’s resolution would put you on the road to good follow-through. Bad habits will sabotage your efforts and use up your limited resources of time, energy and focus. For each bad habit you decide to eliminate, have a good habit in mind to replace it with.

Set appropriate and healthy limits in all areas of your life

Knowing your limits and enforcing them with yourself and others is a prerequisite to a healthy life and relationship. Learn to say no and enough and be firm in your resolve that this is a good thing to do. Otherwise, you will also be undermining your resolution to take care of yourself.

Work to be the kind of person you want to be with

Bringing out the best qualities in yourself will help to ensure that you attract people of good quality into your life. You wouldn’t want to compromise on the standards you have set for a potential mate. Therefore, it’s important to understand that this also holds true for other people in search of relationships.

Now begin this year with the resolve to be the person you know you have the potential to be. You’ll be pleased with the wonderful changes that await you!

Business Goals and Following Through

What do you want to achieve this year?

More new customers per week?

Higher average order amounts?

Better customer service ratings?

No matter what it is you are shooting for, goal setting is one of the most important things that you will do in the New Year. I’ve got a few tips to help you get there.

Keep it challenging but Realistic.

Any goal that you set for your company should be challenging but don’t overdo it. For example, if you had an average order amount of $700 last year, you wouldn’t want to set your goal for this year at $3000 per order.

Unless you make drastic changes in how your company runs or what you are selling, that goal is just not realistic. You know best what you may be able to achieve in your particular industry, so be honest with yourself and set your goals accordingly.

Write all your Goals Down.

You may say to yourself on January 1, “I want to get 20 more new customers per week this year.” A few months later you will be saying “Did I say I wanted 20 or 30?” Or more realistically, you have forgotten that you even made that goal.

If you have all of your goals written down you will be able to not only go back and check them, you will also be able to go down the list every few months and check to see how many of them you have completed.

 Assess Your Current Situation.

To set goals you have to know where you are at right now. In 2003 I wanted to assess our customer service rating so we sent out a survey to all of our customers on which they could rate us in each department of our operation. That helped us establish our base.

Now we send the survey to every customer after every order. This way we can keep track of how we are doing and if there is ever a hiccup we can fix it quickly. Don’t assume anything. Always assess the current situation before setting a new goal.

It’s Only Going to Hurt A Little…

Now, in financial goal setting for your business, one invariably comes to the question: How do I decide on a budget when starting a marketing plan?

This is obviously the first question that you have to answer in order to get started on your new campaign. And in order to reach the income goals you have set for yourself.

So how do you figure out what your budget should be? Here is an easy method to help you find a number that is going to work for you and your business. Some might say that it is a good rule of thumb, but I personally judge things on whether or not they work and get results. That’s all.

Moving on… Start with the amount of income that your company generated last month and multiply it by .14 (or 14%). That means that if you had $50,000 in Gross Income last month you should budget to spend $7000 on marketing in the next month. Wait… I know, it sounds painful but it is just like a shot at the doctor.

It might hurt for a minute (or in this case a month) but down the road you are going to be glad that you went through it. Putting that much toward the right marketing will bump up your income the next month and start you on a cycle of steady growth.

I know that some businesses run tighter than others and it is possible that you won’t be comfortable with that amount in the beginning. Don’t misunderstand me, any marketing is better than no marketing.

Don’t get discouraged if your budget is lower than 14%. But use 14% as the ideal to strive for because, for me as well as many other growing businesses, it has proven to give the best rate of growth possible. How do I know, you ask? My company has expanded 400% in the past 2 years. Now picture your business at 4 times its current size… There’s that smile I was looking for!

The growth of your business is based on three factors; quality products, great customer service and the proper amount of marketing. If you know you have the first two taken care and you still aren’t experiencing healthy growth then you need to take a serious look at your marketing budget.

So sharpen your pencils, start calculating and decide how rapidly you want your business to grow.

Breaking Down Your Goals

A wise Chinese sage once said,

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”

Wise words? But what do they mean to someone who is trying to achieve their goals in life? That’s what we’ll be talking about in this article.

I am sure that you have some big goals in your life. Perhaps you want a mansion in the countryside, a sports car, or your own boat.

I am also sure that you may well be looking at this goal and thinking “How the hell am I going to get that?”

And this is where our wise philosopher comes into play.

Pick one of your major goals that you don’t know how to achieve and examine it more closely. Think about the goal and you will realize that it is made up of a number of smaller goals, each of which is in turn made up of other smaller goals.

Grab a piece of paper, write down a major goal at the top, and below it, write down the steps you can take to achieve this goal. In effect, each of these steps represents a mini-goal, and each of these mini-goals can be broken down further if necessary into more manageable chunks.

Do not become obsessed with achieving each minor step on your way to the major goal. You may find that some steps can be skipped, some become unnecessary, and that new steps appear. Review these minor steps regularly as they will change often.

Now you’ve just done this quick exercise, and you should never leave the scene of a decision without taking some action, so go do something to get yourself on the path to your goal!

An example may be that you want to buy a farm in the country. You know nothing about farms. You may break your goal down into something like:

Find out about farming – is it for me and what does it involve?

What sort of farms are there and which type do I want?

What is the best area for the type of farm that I want?

How much money do I need to buy the farm?

Buy the farm

This is a very simple illustration of breaking down your goals. Each one of these may be broken down further into actions you can take.

Now you realize, that the journey towards a goal starts with a single step, and is made up of many steps.

Being Selfish With Your Goals

All too often good-intentioned people set forth goals designed to satiate others rather than themselves. While the intent is honorable, the results will likely lead to failure. Why?

As the somewhat provocative title of this article indicates, you need to be selfish with your goals and select ones that mean something to you.

Through segments on the evening news, magazines, talk shows, radio programming and even the advice of family and friends, we are consistently subjected to a whole litany of goals that anyone with half a brain should strive for. If we were to listen to all the experts, we would all need to be perfectly fit and rich individuals with at least two college majors under our belt.

Baloney.

Now I won’t deny that there are tremendous benefits to being physically fit, financially well off or highly educated, but let’s be honest here, one doesn’t require all of the above to live a successful and happy life.

There are many somewhat overweight individuals that are quite happy to escape the annoyances of careful food selection and exercise and instead focus on earning money or spending time with family. By the same token, there are many physically fit individuals that see no need to bring in extraordinary levels of income to be happy; they would just as well get by with what they need to live.

I firmly believe all of us should constantly strive to improve ourselves, but there is no single blueprint that we should all follow. What might be important to me (business and management) might not be important to you, and vice versa. For this reason, when you are determining which goals you would like to pursue you should always block out the wishes of others and select goals that are dear to your heart.

This sounds incredibly selfish, but obviously I’m not advocating adopting a goal that would hurt others, and ideally, in a committed relationship you and your significant other would share common goals. But when push comes to shove, if you choose a goal for someone else rather than yourself you will do yourself a huge disservice.

Take, for example, weight loss. Many overweight people lead happy and successful lives despite their weight; you don’t have to be as fit as a fiddle to be happy.

 

Let’s say one of these somewhat overweight individuals decided one day to finally buckle under the constant societal harping about the benefits of weight loss and begin a diet program. What would happen?

Chances are very high the individual would adjust his diet and get off to a good start. Almost all of us are capable of losing a few pounds during the first couple weeks, particularly since much of the initial weight loss is water.

But during this time chances are good, the dieter will be fairly unhappy, and this unhappiness will fester over time. Eventually, when the body stops losing water weight and shifts into fat loss, the weight loss will slow down to about a pound or two a week.

Throughout the diet, the dieter’s morale and optimistic outlook on life will suffer, and this might even affect other areas he was already successful with, such as his relationship with his family or his business. Eventually, he will quit his diet in disgust, and immediately upon reverting to his old eating habits, he will not only gain what he lost he’ll also gain even more!

Diets play havoc with the body’s metabolism, so more often than not a person that quits a diet will end up weighing far more than had they never dieted to begin with. Clearly, weight loss is a fantastic goal that can provide a lifetime of benefits, but it isn’t for everyone!

If you are not passionate about such a goal, you could actually harm other areas of your life when stress is added and morale and motivation drops due to your lifestyle change, and then to add insult to injury you just might end up being heavier than you were had you not even tried to adapt to society’s standards.

The above example holds true for every single goal under the sun. Many people love the business world and all its risks and challenges, but others would rather avoid the stressful situations and problems that all businessmen face.

Perhaps they would rather live a middle-class lifestyle, stay physically fit and enjoy hiking or camping trips with a partner over the weekends during the time the business-oriented are probably working overtime.

Choose only the goals that are compatible with your desires and needs, because selecting an incompatible goal that society or family advocates is a virtually guaranteed formula for failure, and can very easily do more harm than good.

Associate With Those Who Live Vision

The key starting point on our path to being an effective visionary, is networking with those who live vision. There is nothing more draining than meeting with people time and again without seeing tangible evidence of established vision.

Years ago I was part of an organization that continually enthused its people with great ideas of a preferable future. People left homes and countries and were drawn to the organization because of what they had heard. Years later, people left disillusioned and frustrated at the lack of practical evidence that the vision was coming to pass.

  • Here is an A-Z of the key aspects of building a team of visionaries.
  1. Always have milestones to celebrate the successes publicly
  2. Ensure that the big picture is surrounded with little ones
  3. Strategically align all activities in measurable quantities
  4. Make it plain for all to understand
  5. Have the journey outlined before your team and in a prominent place for all to see
  6. Start with the end in view but focus on the first stages
  7. Communicate at the levels people will understand
  8. Have monthly progress reports with key leaders and people
  9. Don’t make excuses for any achievement, finding fault never achieves much
  10. Associate with visionaries who have achieved significant and share your vision
  11. Visit visionaries who are willing to critique your strategies
  12. Don’t overextend your people or resources too soon
  13. Don’t fight on more than one flank at a time (focus on your strategies)
  14. Make momentum your friend, and build a culture where momentum is king
  15. When adding a new opportunity to the vision, bring closure to an ineffective area
  16. Prioritize your resources
  17. Never lose sight of your greatest resource “people”. Reward faithfulness
  18. Train others to go beyond your limits.
  19. Share your leadership but NEVER give it away. Leadership is always the solution

 

  1. Be flexible and willing
  2. Don’t build on traditional successes. What worked last year may not work this
  3. Embrace change and make it your partner
  4. Ensure individuals have the same motive as yourself
  5. Define the culture you wish to develop within your vision and teach it from the start
  6. Have a frequent re-focus day, where clarity, objectives, and strategies are visited
  7. Take time out to celebrate your successes, record such and be thankful you’re alive

“The majority of men meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail.” -Napoleon Hill

“Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.” -George E. Woodberry

Impartation is Caught (association)

The word impartation has significant meaning. We would clarify such a term by using terms such as, “I got it from my years in Europe” or “I have been around you so long I am even thinking like you.”

Impartation is catching something of a third dimension as a result of being exposed to a person, environment or organization. Defining the culture you want your people to be imparted with, is the key responsibility of the visionary leader.

A success culture does not eventuate where there is fear of culture operating. Ideas come from a culture of creativity and acceptance towards failure or none achievement.

A friend of mine is a professional singer and musician. On his latest CD there were several tacks that were incredible. I rang him from the other side of the world to compliment him on his new album. I remember saying to him “there is not one bad track on that album.” His reply was, “Yeah, but I wrote some really bad stuff in the process that never got on the album”. That is a culture that tolerates the less than perfect in order to move forward.

Many people would stop short of their best because their current capacity is less than perfect. We have to create a culture of openness that allows us to accept the now but move towards the preferable future.

Revelation is Sought (prayer, thinking, discussion)

 

The culture we create is the environment that limits or extends us. We all need inspiration on our lives journey and insight into what can be is the greatest form of such. Revelation can be described as “a light going on inside”, a flash of genius”, “a sense of awareness without effort” “it just made sense”.

We can minimize the power of revelation by our structures of belief or unbelief. In this supposed enlightened world that we live in, I am still amazed that individuals can think that they have all the answers. If we had all the answers why do we have all the problems? It has been said, “There is no invention, the only discovery”. Of course, this is true, but discovery comes in several ways.

  • Through systematic effort
  • Through the capitalization of another’s work or idea
  • Through the revelation of what could be

We have created a culture that seeks to make the human mind redundant. Franchises, branding, copyright and profit, all seek to restrict further development of an idea. Of course plagiarism is endemic now with the advent of the Internet. I released an E-book from my site four months ago with an embedded tracking code that notifies me when the article is opened and changed. To-date it has been changed over one thousand times, and appears under a different title for sale bundled with other E-books on several sites.

What is my point? Most people today struggle to use their intellect or creativity, as it is easier to take someone else’s idea and adapt. The problem with this type of culture, is it follows the masses and the independence that is found in revelation and genius is lost on following the bulk ideas generated by the crowd.

I recently went into a worldwide fast-food chain for lunch. The attendant asked me if I wanted fries with my order and then realized my order was fries!

The graduate with a Science degree asks, “Why does it work?” The graduate with an Engineering degree asks, “How does it work?” The graduate with an Accounting degree asks, “How much will it cost?” The graduate with a Liberal Arts degree asks, “Do you want fries with that?” -anon

Prayer is a means of opening your mind to a greater realm of possibilities. “Great minds do not think alike” Great minds think! Prayer is focusing ones attention on the larger picture. It takes self and our pre-occupations out of the picture and replaces our affections on the possibilities of what can be.

The word meditation has the same root meaning as the word ruminates. Cows have four stomachs, and rumination is the process of breaking down the cud, which they are digesting. After a period of digestion, the food is regurgitated from one stomach and into another. The purpose of this is to break down the potentially dangerous acids and provide the animal with the maximum benefit from their food.

Were we to spend a little more time breaking down our thoughts, ideas and revelations we would indeed have great minds and clearer vision.

“I never could have done what I have done without the habits of punctuality, order, and diligence, without the determination to concentrate on one subject at a time.” – Charles Dickens “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” “Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect” -Mark Twain The average mind is average by its acceptance of limitations. The above average mind is open to new ways of thinking.

Most people have one good idea in a lifetime from which they live. Above average minds are open to the possibilities of a better one. It has been said that the hardest thing to open is a closed mind. · Education is a great investment (read, listen, train and be trained)

“Knowledge of the self is the mother of all knowledge. So it is incumbent on me to know myself, to know it completely, to know its minutiae, its characteristics, its subtleties, and its very atoms.” -Kahlil Gibran, “The Philosophy of Logic”

“Know then thyself, presume not God to scan, the proper study of mankind is man.”

-Alexander Pope, “An Essay on Man”

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” –Socrates

“Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he will eat for the rest of his life.” -Chinese Proverb

Education is not the panacea of life, but it is a great basis of preparation. I have met numerous individuals with a far better education than myself, but I have discovered one thing in the process.

Education prepares us for life but it never initiates it. The unemployment list assures us of that. I like the lines Harrison Ford shares in the film Mosquito Coast. “I dropped out of Harvard to get an education”.

Understanding a topic does not qualify us to act. I have many qualifications that have informed me but have not provided me with a living. The reason for this is inaction.

“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan ‘press on’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.” -Calvin Coolidge

“The roots of education are bitter, but the fruit is sweet.” –Aristotle

“Education is the movement from darkness to light.” -Allan Bloom

“The foundation of every state is the education of its youth.” -Diogenes

“The goal of education is the advancement of knowledge and the dissemination of truth.” -John Fitzgerald Kennedy

“Our progress as a nation can be no swifter than our progress in education. The human mind is our fundamental resource.” -John Fitzgerald Kennedy

“All men who have turned out worth anything have had the chief hand in their own education.” -Sir Walter Scott

“I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.” -Mark Twain

“Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.” -William Butler Yeats

Setting a mind to wonder is the greatest satisfaction I receive. I have always loved the realm of training and development as it provides an opportunity for personal development. Once we become blinkered towards pending possibilities, we cease to dream.

Education is often provided in a one size fits all. This creates an attitude of success and failure. Whilst I embrace the philosophy of winners and losers, I do not view people as winners or losers.

Achievement can only ever be truly defined by our-self. We can win gold and yet still feel we are a loser. We can place last in the race and yet be content with our best. Winning is not truly defined by the medal around our neck but by the perception we view success.

There is little excuse for ignorance today. Information is freely available in a way that has never been known in the history of the world. One can be educated in your own home without ever leaving your comfy chair. One breach still remains between education and initiative. Oneself.

“An education isn’t how much you have committed to memory, or even how much you know. It’s being able to differentiate between what you know and what you don’t.” -Anatole France

Are Your Goals Exciting?

With fall upon us, now is the perfect time to think about your future and begin to design the kind of life you’d like to be living. Unfortunately, too many people leave their lives to chance and happenstance, not taking the time to write down their goals and create plans to achieve them.

This can be a huge mistake. Not having written goals would be like going on vacation without a destination, something most people would never consider doing. Yet, those same people will leave their futures in the hands of circumstance.

Having written goals will change your life. Spend some time thinking about what you’d like your life to be like. For the sake of this exercise, let’s set goals you’d like to have accomplished one year from now. Of course, you can set shorter and longer goals as well.

What would you like for your relationships?

How about your health, career, and finances?

How about your mind and emotions?

What would you like to experience?

What would you like to do, be, or have?

Invest some time now to identify these things and write them down. This will greatly increase the likelihood of your accomplishing them.

If you want to know more about this, there are lots of books, including mine, to help you. That’s not really the topic of this story, however, I’m asking you now to revisit your goals, particularly your short-term ones.

Do they make you want to jump out of bed each day eager to get going?

Recently, I was feeling “less than great.” I was even bordering on becoming depressed, something I rarely experience. I felt unmotivated, and wound up being pretty sick for several weeks. Upon closer examination, and because I agree with Socrates that, “An unexamined life is not worth living,” I realized one of the things that I had done was to reset some of my short-term goals to be “more realistic.”

What I had noticed about myself was that in the interest of being realistic, I had lowered my expectations. While this may seem like a reasonable thing to do, in reality, it left me totally uninspired and feeling pretty unmotivated about my goals.

For example, if you have a goal of making enough money to “pay the bills” how exciting is that? Is that going to make you jump out of bed in the morning saying, “oh wow, I can’t wait to get going, so I can make money and pay the bills!” I doubt it.

When I understood what I was doing, I immediately set new goals. I set goals that were way beyond my reach. Goals that were huge enough to really get my juices going. Now, when I think about my new, bigger goals, I get excited just imagine what it would feel like reaching them and what my life would be like having accomplished them.

Now, let’s start setting some new goals for the coming year. Following is a simple exercise to help you become clear about your goals and begin creating the life you’ve always wanted.

  • Write what you do want. Be specific. List everything you want to do, be, have, and share for the upcoming year and beyond. Rather than writing “be thinner,” for example, write “I feel & look great weighing 175 pounds.” Instead of writing, “More money,” be specific. How much more per month?
  • Write each goal in the form of a positive affirmation, in the present tense (I am, I have, etc.). Set goals in the key areas of your life – spirituality, health, relationships, social, career, things, and money.
  • Next to each one, write why you want this and how you will feel when you have accomplished it.
  • Write at least one small action you can take right now to move toward your goal.

Each day, read your list of goals, concentrating on the feelings associated with having them. The more you can feel the feelings your goal will produce, the faster you can draw it to you. Your sub-conscious mind does not know the difference between that which is real and that which is vividly imagined. Fake it until you make it.

After you reread your goals, seeing yourself as having achieved them, and are feeling the good feelings associated with having them, ask yourself, “What is the next action I can take to move toward this?” Do this daily and watch your life change.

Are You Missing The Key To Success?

Are you currently struggling to reach your objectives?

Do you have everything in life that you desire?

Is it easy for you to reach your goals after every success?

Are you calm and patient at all times?

Or, are you frustrated, angry and disappointed at your lack of progress in life?

If you are not living the life you wish to live, then the solution lies in your mind!

Your mind has two parts, the conscious thinking logical part and the unconscious part. Your conscious mind is that part of your mind you are using right now to read and analyze this words. However it is the subconscious part of your mind that is interpreting the symbols on the page and telling you what they represent. This part of your mind is more powerful than you can imagine and is capable of helping you in ways that seem miraculous at times.

Everything that has ever occurred in your life is stored somewhere in the subconscious part of your mind. It is literally an unlimited warehouse for memories and emotions. This is an extremely important aspect of the subconscious mind. You need to have instant access to this stored information so that you can find your way home, remember names and faces, how to do your job etc., it does have major disadvantages!

Not only does your subconscious mind store valuable information it also stores essential emotions. For example it stores the emotion of pain and fear connected to certain activities such as placing your hand too close to fire. When you find yourself getting too close to fire and feel the heat on your skin your subconscious mind will immediately alert you with a feeling of fear. This mechanism is designed to keep you safe and works very effectively.

It also works to your advantage by replaying positive emotions connected to certain situations – think of a time when you caught a glimpse of your spouse or child, heard a piece of music or smelt some perfume or aftershave and were immediately reminded of an earlier time that evoked strong loving emotions.

Therefore, we can view your subconscious mind as acting, in its simplest role, as a recording and playback mechanism – a bit like a fully interactive video recorder. The things that occur to you in your life are recorded and then played back when you access those memories. The problem that often arises though is when incorrect or inappropriate emotional memories are accessed by the subconscious mind when you find yourself in new situations. If your subconscious mind has been “programmed” with negative emotions or a negative self-image then these are the things it will play back to you when you try something new or reach out past your comfort zone.

There is another problem with this mechanism that is rarely addressed by the self-improvement industry and hypnosis communities when they seek to change this negative subconscious programming. Although they will admit that the subconscious mind is mostly a playback system of past events, they rely too heavily on the reprogramming of this mind with positive beliefs and do not address the other, just as important, issue.

If the subconscious mind is just a playback device, and it replays past emotions in new situations, then it is obvious we need to ensure it is playing back positive supportive emotions and thoughts when we undertake any new venture. But what about the other problem? How do we address that?

Well the problem is this; if the subconscious mind is a playback device and we want to do something new how can it help us do it when it has no knowledge of what it is doing? Let me explain.

You set a goal to make $2,000 per week. You set about writing your goal and affirming your intentions, visualizing, using self-hypnosis, and a myriad of other techniques, to reprogram your mind for success. However, you are only doing half the job, albeit a very important half but only half all the same!

If the subconscious mind is merely a playback mechanism and you set an intention to create something you have never created before it will merely playback everything you know about that subject – which is probably very little! Let’s look at our financial example again.

You want to make $2,000 per week yet you have only ever made $400 per week. You use your self-improvement techniques daily and quickly reprogram your mind for success thinking. Now you find yourself full of confidence and enthusiasm for your objectives.

Great! You are in the right mind-set for success. The problem arises when you begin to think about making the extra money. When you quiz yourself about how you can actually go about doing that your subconscious mind will play back everything it knows about how to make money. You will probably immediately think that you need to get a higher paying job, work more hours, take on an extra job etc.

Although you have successfully programmed your mind for success your mind does not yet have the knowledge or experience of how it can actually go about creating the success you desire!

There are two ways to overcome this problem. The first is to acquaint yourself with as much knowledge as you can about making money. This is a great thing to do. You can study the lives of people who started in similar situations to you and increased their net worth and determine if their way of doing it would suite you. I highly recommend this approach even if you find it easy to reach your new goal with your new positive outlook.

However, there is another way. It is easier and faster and always works. As well as programming yourself for success you must deprogram your old negative beliefs and, (here is the key) your limiting programming!

When you remove your self-imposed limitations – i.e. I have to work extra hours, take a second job, get a higher paying job etc., to increase my earnings – you will find inspiration coming to you. You don’t have to reprogram these limiting beliefs with new ones all you have to do is deprogram them and let your mind do the rest!

As your subconscious mind is no longer replaying everything it knows about making money it must seek new answers from somewhere else! As you deprogram your limiting beliefs and emotions you will become more aware of the possibilities that are all around you. Your intuition will be more accessible to you and you will find yourself almost effortlessly drifting into new, exciting and highly profitable opportunities.

Deprogramming your limiting beliefs is much easier than you think and the results you experience will be many thousands of times greater than if you just concentrate on creating new beliefs through traditional personal development techniques! Try it, you may just be surprised.

Are You Achieving Your Goals?

Have you found yourself setting goals every year but eventually losing interest?

Did you have every intention to make a difference by accomplishing your goals but then not following through?

It is easy to get frustrated when this happens. Because of your frustration, it is less likely you will set any goals the next year.

Don’t let that happen. You can make a difference in the world. Pursuing appropriate goals will help you do that. The problem may not have anything to do with setting goals. It may have everything to do with the goals you set.

Ask yourself a question:

Are your goals in alignment with your life purpose?

If not, it should be no surprise that you lose interest. You need to develop goals that are consistent with forwarding your purpose in life. When your goals are aligned with your passions, you are more likely to be persistent and accomplish them. Even through difficult times.

You don’t know what your life purpose is?

Start today to determine what it is. My life changed drastically when I realized my purpose. I know yours will as well. Until then, your goals will never have the meaning and excitement they will hold for you when they are aligned with your purpose.

There are many great books that can provide you a step-by-step method for realizing your life purpose. The books that helped me and I strongly recommend are:

  • “The Power To Be Your Best” by Todd Duncan
  • “The Purpose-Driven Life” by Rick Warren

Once you know your purpose, setting goals and prioritizing how you spend your time will be easier. You will also be surprised at how much you accomplish as your efforts and passions come together.

Get started today on making sure your goals and life purpose are in alignment. Your unique experiences and skills are needed to help make the world a better place.

Achieve More by Deleting “Should” from your Vocabulary

Take back your power and motivation by replacing “should’s” with “will’s.”

When we talk about our goals, we use the word “should” a lot.

Most of us think it’s just an innocent word that helps us get out of boring conversations and confrontations about our bad habits.

However, the word “should” poisons our speech and ambitions by inferring that what we’re doing isn’t good enough, and that we would be better off doing something else.

When you say you “should” do something, what are you really saying?

  1. It’s an obligation that you’re not fond of.

We don’t talk about how we “should” do things that we don’t feel obligated to do.

If we are excited about eating cake, we don’t say, “I “should” eat cake.”

We just do it!

However, if we feel obligated to eat celery, it becomes a “should.” If making cookies for the bake sale is a “should,” it’s an obligation.

If it were a fun activity, it would be easy for you to just do it.

  1. You’re not going to do it and you have an excuse as to why.

“I “should” ________________,” is usually followed by, “but ______________.”

When you say things like this, you are proclaiming to the world that you agree one course of action would be appropriate, and that you’re going to do the exact opposite.

Imagine how foolish you would sound telling your boss, “I know that the appropriate thing to do is to stay late and finish the proposal so I am prepared for tomorrow’s meeting, and instead of doing that I am going to go home and take the chance of not finishing it before the meeting tomorrow morning.”

If this is what you really mean, why bother disguising with a “should?”

Deep down, you know what’s really going on.

  1. You know exactly what you need to do to make things better and you haven’t started yet!

For all of you out there who “should” stop smoking, who “should” lose weight, or who “should” go back to school, you know exactly what you want to do to make your life better for yourself, and you’re using “should” as a lame excuse not to take action!

Of course, standing on the sidelines is much easier than running after the ball, but you don’t win any games that way.

If you have a long list of “should’s” and a short list of goals, choose which of those “should’s” you will follow through with and put your plans on paper.

If instead of feeling that your day is just one thing you “should” do after another thing you “should” do, turn your “should’s” into definite “will’s” or “will not’s.”

While “should” robs you of power and motivation, “will” gives you power and resolve to get things done.

With fewer “should’s” in your vocabulary, you’ll find yourself speeding along the road to accomplishment.